Indicator of Interest
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Verbal or physical symbol of conscious or unconscious attraction to suitor.

Common IOIs

  1. She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking
  2. She giggles
  3. She touches you
  4. She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
  5. She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
  6. She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
  7. If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
  8. She smiles at you
  9. She stands nearby (proximity)
  10. She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
  11. While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
  12. She says something to her friend and they both giggle
  13. She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
  14. While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
  15. She asks you for your name
  16. She asks you your age (make her guess)
  17. She compliments you
  18. She is playful and tries to challenge you
  19. She's disagreeing but laughing
  20. She's punching your arm but laughing
  21. She uses nicknames for you
  22. She plays with her hair while talking to you
  23. When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
  24. She repeatedly touches you in any way
  25. She asks if you have a girlfriend
  26. She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
  27. When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
  28. She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
  29. She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
  30. If it comes up that you like something, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
  31. When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
  32. She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking
  33. She introduces you to friends
  34. She buys you a drink
  35. She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
  36. On her way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
  37. On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
  38. She returns your calls
  39. She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have isolation with you